“Damn it! Why isn’t she/he texting me back?” “Why does she/he always forget my birthday date?” “Why did she/he ignored me yesterday? Why does she/he forget to appreciate my work. Do you ever experience these thoughts? I did sometime back on a daily basis! Isn’t it crazy to think that the actions of others have such a strong affect on our happiness? Usually a husband believes that his wife wants him to make her happy. Read out here how usually a husband reacts when someone asks his wife “Does your husband make you happy”?
After years of hard & dedicated service to his Company, Ajay was being appointed as new Director. It was a small function where his wife Anita , a Home Executive & some of the wives of the other persons in top management were also present.
In an adjacent room, Ann, the wife of the CEO of the Company, asked Anita a very odd & usual question; “Does your husband make you happy?”
The husband, Ajay, who at that moment was not at her side, but was sufficiently near to hear the question, paid attention to the conversation, feeling secure, even filling his chest lightly in pride & hope. Anita would definitely not publically degrade her husband and would answer affirmatively, since she had always been there for him during their marriage.
Nevertheless, to both his & the others’ surprise, she replied simply; “No, no he doesn’t make me happy…”
The room became uncomfortably silent, as if everyone were listening to the spouse’s response. There was a sudden coldness in the air. The husband was petrified. A frown appeared on his face. He couldn’t believe what his wife was saying, especially at such an important occasion for him.
Anita sat up firmly & explained in a modest but stern tone to the other wives who were present; “No, he doesn’t make me happy… I AM HAPPY. The fact that I am happy or not doesn’t depend on him, but on me. GOD has granted each of us intellect & discretion to reason, interpret & decide. GOD made me the person upon which my happiness depends.
I make the choice to be happy in each situation & in each moment of my life. If my happiness were to depend on other people or circumstances on the face of this earth, I would be in serious trouble! The fact that Over my life I have learned a couple of things: I decide to be happy & the rest is a matter of ‘experiences or circumstances’ like helping, understanding, accepting, listening, consoling & with my spouse, I have lived & practiced this many times.
Relieved & reassured, a smile was clearly noticed on Ajay’s face.
There are those who say I cannot be happy :
- Because I am sick.
- Because I have no money.
- Because it’s too cold.
- Because they insulted me.
- Because someone stopped loving me.
- Because someone didn’t appreciate me.
But what they don’t know is that they can be happy even though sick, whether they have money or not, whether someone has insulted them, or someone didn’t love or hasn’t valued them.
Being Happy, depends on us! I’m human. I’m not perfect but I’m thankful.. *SO I AM HAPPY*
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